Monday, May 1, 2017

Stress and the way I handle it

   Since, working I find my patience so much thinner when coming home. The house isn't clean :/
I'm immediately irritated.
   So, I breathe and exhale and think about my son smiling and I calm down a bit.
I list things in my head and think of what needs to be done. I always try to get things done even if a little when my baby is sleeping. Especially cleaning And I know getting things done can feels like a burden. Maybe I'm just really lazy or have been spoiled. I think it may be both or maybe you do have a lot going on. It's okay not everyone can handles things the same. Don't ever feel like you are less because you snapped about something.
   It's fine. I live by letting things go. It does me know good to think about how I overspent, how I yelled at my son. When I know he doesn't grasp language yet. It is good to think about it once and recognize where you went wrong but not okay to over analyze it. I used to. I'm sure you've done it. We've all done it. Recognize what went wrong and try not to do it. I wish we all could stop our bad habits cold turkey.
  All it takes is recognizing what went wrong and stopping yourself one time after another. At the end of the day you are better than before. Additionally if someone is causing you stress depending on the situation. Like my mother bless her heart I love her. Yet, she berates me with comments about what I need to be doing with my son. What I'm doing wrong. It just goes right over my head. I have become used to it some days it hurts. It really feels like I'm terrible. Yet, it's easy to criticize. I remind myself that my job is not to please her.
   Some people are just nitpicky. Ignore them. Hello! You have different things going on. You handle things differently your stresses are different. Just because someone yelled at you, said something negative, or maybe looked at you weird. For example someone staring at you because your child is crying. One day they will most likely be you. I don't know why people think babies can control their emotions. My son had a fit the other day because he wanted to walk and not be held or in the buggy. I don't ever let him out the buggy or my arms because he grabs stuff, lays down, and puts anything in his mouth. He especially loves to yank clothes off the hangers. Ignore them. Do they honestly expect to go to the store and not run into a child? They can't even stop themselves from staring(which is rude) how do they expect little kid to hold back tears or their anger? -_-
   Get over it. Whatever it is get over it. It's not effecting you at this moment so it's not important.     Think of any happy moment that relaxes you. I think of that newborn smell and my sons laugh and his smile. It calms me so much I tear up a little because I am overjoyed and relaxed all at once. Honest to god. I really do. My eyes well up just a tad.
     Anyway I just wanted to write about how unimportant some things are even if you feel pressured or stressed. Love yourself and others. Especially kind people who you see do nice things. This lady offered me half a dozen donuts once at walmart in the check out line. She apparently did not plan on finishing a dozen. Some people might think that's weird but it's nice she wanted to share her donuts. Also, one time my mom sent me in to buy a poster board and project supplies I was off by $2-3 dollars and this guy who looked to be in his early 20s paid for the whole thing. Those nice people make me full of good vibes. Notice those good things. Even seeing hearing of good things I get pumped.
God bless and have a wonderful night y'all.